I don’t watch much television, so the premiere of Sex and the City 2 really didn’t mean much to me until I saw this video. Here, the stars of this incredibly popular movie are speaking out about the juggling act that so many working mothers face. Trying to “do it all” or “have it all” is out the window. It’s a myth that never really existed.

The truth is that working moms don’t want “it all”, we just want what we want: We want a lifestyle we can be proud of, a family we can be proud of, and to not feel guilty about being who we really are.

As mompreneurs, we work to build a business AND maintain a family. We shouldn’t feel guilty about that. In fact, this is a role we’ve played since the early days of our existence on planet earth. One look at Proverbs 31 outlines exactly how hard moms have worked for centuries – both in and outside the home. It is our mission to keep the peace on the homefront as well as in the business arena.

Moms are great leaders. We rally the troops out of bed, to breakfast, to school, etc. All day long we’re directing and executing plays on the field of life. When trouble comes, Mom handles it. It’s what we do. It only makes sense that we would also fill a similar role in the workplace. As more women embrace the power of working from home, more moms are assuming the leadership roles they’ve so long neglected.

Moms are great organizers. We are notorious multi-taskers, spinning multiple plates, even when our own health is at risk. We’re do-ers for others, and sometimes we go too far. We want to support the people that matter to us, and only ask for the same in return.

Instead, we may feel marginalized, or guilty about building a life that balances our needs. Often in my coaching practice, clients confess their guilt over running a successful business because they think it means neglecting their family. There couldn’t be anything further from the truth.

Moms need to put on their own oxygen masks and recognize what’s really important to their well-being, both in terms of self-care and in the business arena. It takes work, most certainly, but balancing your life and work demands is something that must be done if you ever want to feel truly successful as a business mom.

Copyright 2010. Lisa Robbin Young.

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Tickets are now on sale for The Renaissance Mom Experience, a 3-day live training event for mompreneurs. If you’re struggling with work-life balance, and want the tools, systems and resources to build a life and a lifestyle that you love, join us this August. To learn more, visit http://TheRenaissanceMomExperience.com and sign up for the free telecourse, “The PEACE System: 5 Simple Steps to Save Your Sanity & Bring Your Business and Life in Balance Without Apologies.“

But there’s an even bigger, more hairy audacious obstacle that prevents many entrepreneurs from ever attaining their BHAG.

Distractions. Entrepreneurs have a horrible time with this. We’re constantly distracted by the ideas that float into our brains. Great ideas, though they may be, we’re often found floating from idea to idea, never really completing anything.

Several terms have been concocted to describe this condition. Shiny object syndrome is a pervasive problem amongst entrepreneurs. According to one study, about 50% of entrepreneurs demonstrate ADHD tendencies, and becoming distracted is a big issue.

So if you have big, clearly defined goals, what can you do to stay on track?

For me, it took dying my hair a bright, shiny, platinum blonde color.

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I took a LOT of flak for this change. And the comments (to my face) ranged from “Oh GAWD! What were you thinking?” to “Wow! You look AMAZING!” – and everything in between. I can only imagine some of the snickering that went on behind closed doors.

Deciding to go blonde had nothing to do with having more fun, or really even about being more visible – although those were possible side effects. For me, there was a deeper meaning to embracing my “inner blonde”.

It was a constant, daily reminder of three BHAGs I needed to accomplish in my life.

Every morning I wake up, I look in the mirror and see this face, surrounded by this hair – an unavoidable reminder of things left undone. Things that MUST be completed before my hair goes back to a more, um, natural shade.

I could have chosen a less outspoken color, but part of the shift that needed to happen in me was being able to embrace my outspoken nature. And the other goals I’ll talk more about at my live event this fall.

Some people can use a vision board, or write it down, or do a daily visualization and consistently hold those goals in their mind. Some people can plug it into a computer, a PDA or have someone else hold them accountable.  I’m not one of those people. Ink washes away. Strings break. Kids spill stuff on your PDA, delete your hard drive, and decide to color on your vision board.

I needed something indelible. Something that wouldn’t rub off, wash off, or get lost in the translation. So about this time last year, I made the leap from dark brown to blonde (with a pit stop at orange. There’s a picture somewhere on Facebook, I think. It’s horrible.).

In the intervening year, my “daily reminder” was met by occasional snide remarks – even from family and friends. The suggestions to “pick a more flattering color”, the questioning, and the outright assumptions on the part of most people were more examples of how people don’t always ‘get it’ when we want to accomplish something huge. Sometimes our closest friends think they’re doing us a favor. They think they’re being supportive, but in reality, they’re trying to fit our BHAG into their world.  People don’t understand (or care to understand) the motivation behind the transformation, they only judge the outward manifestation of the first step.

Crazy? Silly? Stupid? Unflattering? Perhaps. But I didn’t go blonde to please you. I didn’t even do it to please me.

The thing about changing your hair color to something VERY different from your natural color is that it requires work to maintain. You can’t just quit when the going gets tough – or another distraction comes along.

When the roots come in, you’ve got to decide to keep going or go back. Cut it off or let it grow. For me, this was a very visceral, tangible, and physical manifestation of my business and personal goals.

Do I quit just because it’s hard? Just because I haven’t reached my goal yet?

Do I cut myself off just because other people are telling me it can’t be done – or that I’m too (old, fat, young, smart, dumb, poor, educated, etc.)?

Do I keep going, or go back?

I chose (and continue to choose) to ‘let it grow’.

A couple of weeks ago, I hit goal number one of three. So blonde don’t live here no more.

My target is to complete goals two and three so that this whole “hairy goal” thing is ironed out by August – and settle on the final hair color for the rest of my 30′s.

Or until my next BHAG comes into view.

Okay, a lot. But it will pass soon enough.

My pal @elizabethpw remodeled her website. I’m sharing some of the pertinent insights to my audience on my direct sales blog, but today, I wanted to share the discoveries that are pertinent to you.

See I created that site eons ago, when I was just a fledgling online person. I shunned WordPress (not one of my better decisions, I’ll admit). I was creating pages by hand (still do sometimes). I thought I was doing well.

Then the other day, I got an email from Liz Pabon, where she wrote this:

Our inner knowing is like an attic filled with great treasures made up of our knowledge, experiences and wisdom.  And sometimes those treasures are blocked or hidden by the cobwebs of self-neglect.

And I got to thinking about all the “stuff” that’s crammed into that site. 2 years of teleclasses (yes, 2 freakin’ years worth). Classes, courses, downloads and handouts. All of it muddled, mixed around, and hard to navigate.

I was making it difficult for people to buy from me.

Now don’t get me wrong, I like earning my keep. I enjoy getting paid for the contribution I make. I think I do a pretty good job of sharing what works, and it’s important to my family that I’m compensated appropriately for my “genius work” as my coach calls it.

But buried within layers of links, pages and other subterfuge, it wasn’t easy to do business with me. And the irony is, I tell people time and again to make it easy for customers to do business with you.

I’m accessible. I’m probably too accessible. If someone sends an email, a tweet or a facebook post, I usually respond – and pretty quickly when I’m able. And I answer questions, provide tons of advice and strategies to help my clients and strangers who may never be my clients.

But on more than one occasion, I’ve had people say the very same thing that I read at the top of Elizabeth’s blog post (except that my name’s Lisa and not Elizabeth).

But in my own head, I thought I was being really clear. I was following all the “rules” about building an opt-in list, creating info products, doing launches, and sharing “free content” with my followers (you know, “the what” but not “the how” stuff we’ve been fed).

So I’m blowing it up – for fun AND profit.

I’ve had this vision for an entire training program much like a college curricula for direct sales pros that want to run their business like a real business. But it’s built around small group coaching – classroom style – and that violates “the rules” of online marketing.

See, according to “the rules”, I’m supposed to create content once, get paid to do it, and then re-package it into an info-product I can sell over and over. It’s a great way to produce “passive” income, but if you follow “the rules”, the bulk of that revenue comes during the product launch, and then trickles in over the lifetime of the product. The more affiliates you have promoting the launch, the more money you stand to make when it launches. Which is why you hear a LOT about people that have multi-million dollar launches, but then you never hear how the product does on the back end.

Things that make me go hmmm…

I’ve been doing this “info marketing thang” for a couple of years now, and when I was green, I was following “the rules” religiously. Step-by-step, cranking out teleclasses, setting up continuity programs, etc. And in the last three weeks it hit me that I wasn’t being authentic in my business.

For as much as I enjoy “passive” income. I had become a slave to “the rules” – and they really didn’t fit me or the way I wanted to do business.

Here’s the truth I’ve learned in the past two years in my online business:

• People will buy info products, but they’ll pay more to work directly with you.
• Info products by themselves are mostly worthless. They sit on shelves and collect dust. I think it was Dan Kennedy that said 20% of your customers will never even open the product. And to get USED to that. Um, sorry. That does not compute for me.
• My business is seeing a shift towards hands-on help that guides people through the info products. And that’s because…
• People get better results with hands-on help.
• Small groups rock. The synergy, the energy and the masterminding that goes on is exponentially better than self-study, and bridges the gap between info products and live events.
• The biggest payday happens at product launch. BUT…
• Big launches leave big gaps in your cash flow.

There’s nothing wrong with helping people and getting paid to do it, folks. That’s what teachers and mentors have been doing for centuries. The catch is to price yourself accordingly for the services you perform. There’s always someone who thinks you’re too expensive, and someone that sees you as the bargain basement extra meal deal. The key is to find your own value in that mix and be fair with your pricing. There’s NO disputing the fact that hands-on help is worth more than info-products all day long.

That’s why you’re seeing a surge in live events, big ticket “masterminds” and ultra pricey one-on-one coaching programs – complete with swarming, affiliate-driven promotional launches.

But you can’t feasibly launch a big ticket item every month to keep cash flow consistent.

Even the “guru’s” are filling those gaps with smaller ticket product launches, generally joint ventures in a teleclass (small group) format. They can launch them every couple of months, and both partners benefit. In fact, one multi-million dollar guru has already launched 6 products in the first 3 months of the year. Talk about bombarding their audience!

But between affiliate and JV promotions, the cash flow keeps coming in.

Take a look at who’s doing what this year. You’ll see most of them moving away from continuity-based models (especially in light of the new California legislation), and towards more mid-price ($300-500), “one-time-only” tele-series and product launches. It serves the same purpose, but at a higher price point, and with fewer customer service issues.

My own business is taking a similar stance – albeit at a much lower price point in most instances. We’re blowing up HomePartySolution.com – and the entire online community that goes with it – to create a more streamlined user interface, and a more lucrative business platform for the direct sales portion of our coaching business.

In short, I’m going to make it so easy for people to do business with me that my clients will wonder what happened.

It’s not an easy process, by any means, and we’re considering documenting the process to help YOU shorten the learning curve if you ever want to do this in your own business. I estimate the entire site will be down about a month to test everything and make it all operational again – with all the new content we’re adding to boot.

The only thing that will still be live on that site is the home page opt-in for new ezine subscribers. I still plan on sending out the weekly ezine, and generating content behind the scenes. But we won’t be selling anything for about a month over there.

So how am I going to keep the employees paid and the family fed?

With a GI-NORMOUS product launch over here.

Tickets for The Renaissance Mom Experience are slated to go on sale April 15. You can sign up for the advance notification list on that page. You have been warned.

The cool thing is that I’m able to continue to do what I love in a way that I truly enjoy. I am able to connect with the very people I enjoy helping and they are seeing better results because of it. I’m able to leverage myself as well (more on that in another post), and continue to grow both segments of my business (both here and on the direct sales side of things). I can’t wait for you all to see what new things we have in store this quarter.

What about you? I’d love your thoughts and feedback on this. Share your comments below, or send me a note on twitter.