First, my apologies for being out of touch, but I believe you deserve an explanation as to what’s going on over here at my offices.

A few weeks ago, I wrote a guest post for JulieAnne Jones’ blog about what to do when things get tough in your business. In it, I offer six tips for navigating tough times successfully. One of those is to be honest with your “tribe” when things aren’t perfect. So here goes…

You may or may not have already heard, but we did, in fact, cancel the live event that I had planned for this weekend.

The Renaissance Mom Experience was to be one of those “powerful, life changing events” – leaving a big impact on each of the attendees. At this point, I believe we have refunded everyone. If I missed you, please contact my team.

We’re still planning to do something in terms of a virtual event. That will begin on Sunday, August 29. If you are on the event notification list, you’ll learn more soon enough.

But in the meantime, I’m putting out all kinds of fires at headquarters. So many unexpected “emergencies” have developed (from cancelling the event and other things), that I’m doing all I can to keep my head on straight this week.

Like finding out that the IRS has fouled up every payroll tax filing for me for the past YEAR. So now we’re digging through the archives to clean up THEIR mess (Bonnie, if you’re reading this, don’t worry. Your payroll tax payments are fine, it’s the paper returns they’ve goofed up! No worries!)

And that’s just the tip of this week’s iceberg. Some of the issues directly impact me, others indirectly (like my bookkeeper’s family issues), but all of them are weighing heavy on me right now.

Which means all of my normal “routine” activities have gone by the wayside.

That’s the bad news.

Sorry, there’s no newsletter, no blog posts, and very little contact from me at the moment.

Add to that the fact that we’re closing the offices for the Labor Day Holiday and you can see I’m “up to my elbows in alligators” as an old friend used to say.

Our offices will be closed from September 2-7 (me and all the staff are taking time off. No promises on if we’ll be checking email much or voice mail at all). We’ll re-open on September 8.

There’s a reason my company’s logo is a phoenix.

Some awesome new products and services will be rolling out in September and later this fall. But between now and then, I’m going to be very hard to connect with as the dust settles from the fallout of this week.

Why am I telling you all of this?

Well, in all honesty, because I’ve been feeling like a fraud for NOT telling you sooner. I mean, I coach YOU to be completely transparent in your business and let your teams, your clients and your associates know what’s really going on. People know you’re not perfect, so to present that illusion to the world is tantamount to living a lie.

I would be a fraud to pretend that all is well in the land of Lisa this week. It’s not. Far from it.

But this, too, shall pass. And then, we’ll be back on track and right as rain.

Yes, you’ll be hearing from me in the interim, but not on any particular schedule. Those of you active in any of my coaching courses will see a delay in course delivery – BUT all content WILL be delivered. As always, you can email or call and we’ll do our best to help you with any questions you have, just realize it might take us longer than usual to reply – especially during the Labor Day holiday.

I’m doing everything in my power to keep all the promises I’ve made to everyone and not work myself to death in the process.

Lessons Learned

Every once in a while, you have to make time to take time to deal with life. I would be a fake and a phony if I didn’t practice what I preach.

I know there are at least a few people that would try to cover their tracks and put a marketing “spin” on something like this.

“We’ve decided to ‘go virtual’ to let more people experience the event.”
“Special pricing is open AGAIN – but only for twelve seconds.”
“Bring your friends, your dog, your cat, and a total stranger for FREE.”
“Get fifteen extra bonuses when you sign up before the sun sets today.”

Blah, blah, blech.

No can do. We priced this thing at an incredibly affordable rate (less than $1000 including your room and meals), so I’m not going to cheapen the value of the content by playing those games. The plain truth is that we didn’t sell enough tickets for me to justify keeping everyone’s money (including our awesome sponsors) to bring out these amazing speakers to share their story with a teensy weensy audience. I could have kept the money and played to an audience of twenty people, but it just felt inauthentic and unfair when we were touting this as a large scale event with about 300 people.

Other people may feel comfortable playing that game, but to me, it’s just dishonest and makes you look desperate.

If I were a speaker, I’d want a better return on my time investment. If I were a sponsor, I’d want all the eyeballs originally promised. As an attendee, I might be excited about a smaller, more intimate group, but I might be bummed that I wasn’t meeting enough people.

In business, you have to know when to cut your losses, and sometimes that means nixing a pet project. Cancelling this event was one of the top five heartbreaks of my life. Not because it meant losing income (it’s only money, after all), but because of the mission I still feel compelled to serve – to help mompreneurs bring balance to their life and their work without apologies.

Time and again, that was what I was hearing – apologies about how it was too far, too short notice, too many days, etc. Which tells me the idea was good, but the offer wasn’t good enough. But that’s another post for another day.

Simply put, I know there’s a demand for the material, so we’re working out a way to deliver a portion of the content from the live event in a virtual format starting August 29.

When you cancel an event like this, there are lots of egos to stroke and apologies to be made – and that’s just at my house! The stress my husband and I endured during the summer was epic. Cancelling the event led to all kinds of inquisitions, concerns, and arguments. Again, another post for another day.

Then there’s fees and contracts you have to honor. We’re still working on that.

And THEN the IRS rears their ugly head? Yeesh. Is it any wonder I need a break?

It’s created a lot of chaos, uproar, and difficulty that I simply can’t ignore. Nor would I want to, in truth. So I’m asking for your patience and a little understanding over the next couple of weeks. I’m not ignoring you. We’re just SWAMPED!

And to be clear, no one’s dying, and we’re not closing up shop any time soon. I just need a couple of weeks to get these fires put out and get business back on track.

The GOOD news, is that after the Labor Day holiday is over, we’ve got a TON of great things planned to help you make the last few months of the year your best ever. It pains me to have to wait to share it with you, but I’ve got to clear the path, first.

When the dust settles, there’s gonna be a major blog series about this, you can be sure.

Until then, there are a couple of things you might be interested in:

• If you’re in direct sales, we’ve got special pricing on the videos from Home Party Solution LIVE until August 31. This is the video from last year’s 3-day event. We go end-to-end through the book, with additional bonus content.
• Get registered for the virtual version of The Renaissance Mom Experience (free, even though the site’s not completely updated yet. It’s on the to-do list for the week)
• 30 Days to Renaissance (also free, you can register in the sidebar over there —>) is a 30-day e-course to help you get from Reluctance to Renaissance in your life and business. Just proves I try to practice what I preach.

LASTLY, if you have questions, concerns or comments, we ARE checking the email and the phone messages (and you can DM me on twitter). Just don’t expect an immediate response. Things are plain crazy here at the moment.

In more than a dozen years of business, I have never felt so much in a pressure cooker before. And if you’ve been with me for any length of time, you know how seriously I take my client relationships. For me to basically put business “on hold” to put out fires is a strong indicator of the level of chaos we’re feeling right now.

But sometimes, ya gotta do what ya gotta do.

Thanks for your understanding.

So you’ve seen my take on the good, bad and ugly at Ali Brown’s Shine event. And if you missed it, check my previous posts.

Today, I wanted to boil it all down to what I actually learned and what my “take aways” were from this event.

I was fortunate in that I was able to spend a couple extra days in Vegas processing, filtering, connecting, and getting more clarity on how to apply everything I gleaned before, during and after Shine.

The biggest take away is that you really do get what you take. Everyone went in with so many varied opinions and ideas – some positive, some negative. But ultimately, each person makes an assessment as to whether or not they’d do it all over again. I definitely would go back because so much good came out of this event for me.

But I was looking for the good in the first place. It didn’t come in all the ways I expected, or hoped, but there was a TON of value I never would have gotten had I not gone to Vegas.

For example, one of my core values is experiences. I love participating in and creating experiences where people can connect, share, grow and support one another. Love it, love it, LOVE IT. That’s been the missing link in my business and my life, and I didn’t figure that out until I was in the room watching a half dressed guy spinning heavy metal objects during the opening of the event. It wasn’t the spinning guy that thrilled me (really. not my type), but the oohing and aaahing and “illegal” photography that the audience was doing that interested me. You could tell that people were raising their energy, getting excited, and wanting to find something exciting in this event.

It was all about the experience. And while I won’t say I’m a seminar junkie, it does explain why I love direct sales so much – creating experiences for clients to really enjoy themselves and feel good about their own lives.

There Are A LOT Of People Looking For Clarity
Most of the women and men I met at Shine were looking or clarity, direction and the “How-to’s” to grow their business idea. They are smart, hard working people, trying to “figure it out” – many trying to balance their heart with their head. The answers, most of the time, are already within us – or within arm’s reach. And it doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg to get the answers you need. You just need to know where to look.

I like reinventing myself
A couple of weeks prior to shine, I was at a mastermind retreat where I realized that one of the biggest thrills in my life is helping people get that “Ah-HA!” moment of clarity in their life. I’ve worked with theater owners, authors, actors, direct sellers, designers, small biz owners, and even heads of multi-million dollar companies. Sometimes it’s the teeny weeny little idea that gets overlooked that puts everything into perspective.

So I created these “limited edition” business cards positioning myself as an idea coach and professional brainstormer – helping people get clarity or create new ideas to make their business profitable. It felt like being home.

I wasn’t pigeon-holed into a niche, I could communicate effortlessly with all kinds of entrepreneurs – including a rocket scientist whilst in the airport – and offer substantive help that got peoples wheels turning.

I Like That! So we’ve created RentLisasBrain.com where I’ll be doing more of that brainstorming and focus work.

People-Watching Pays
From the waitstaff to the sales reps on the main floor of the Venetian, to the other participants in the event, there was a lot to learn just by watching others. The way they carried themselves, what they said, what they DIDN’T say – there was free education all around just by keeping your eyes open.

Never Leave Anything To Chance
Anne McKevitt said this in an off-hand kind of way during her branding presentation, but it stuck with me. And as the event went on, I looked for places where Ali’s team worked hard to leave nothing to chance. While we kind of had to work at applying a lot of the hidden lessons from Shine, this one idea gave me some new directions in my own life and business.

Everything Works. You Just Have To Be Tenacious.
Really. It doesn’t matter what business model you choose, or how you set everything up. Every strategy that’s being taught will work if you apply enough tenacity to it. Granted, some will work better than others, and not everything will be a perfect fit for you, but people wouldn’t espouse it if it didn’t work.

Which Means, It’s Really About Resonance.
So while everything WILL work, finding the thing that resonates most with you is where you’ll be most content. Then, even if it’s not the most effective idea for others, you’ll be happy and productive.

Bluntly, in the Internet Marketing realm, there are experts that tell you the best way to squeeze every dollar out of a prospect is with upsells, downsells, cross sells, and probably diagonal sells if they could figure that out. But most of us don’t resonate with that, and “settle” for a happy medium – a balance of content and pitch that makes us feel we’re providing value, developing relationships and getting compensated appropriately.

My action plan is to re-design my business around the way I would want to be treated as a customer – and as a human being. It costs more and means harder work, and it’s worth it, because I’m proud of the end result, my true fans appreciate me, and they know what effort goes into producing a quality product. It also means more hands-on, personal interaction with me, because that’s where I think people get the best results. And since I’m all about results, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Binders Suck
That was probably the second biggest disappointment of Day One. This gorgeous binder was at my seat waiting for me and inside was nothing but lined note paper and a “resource” section that was filled with Ali’s products on discount. It felt like such a waste, even after we were given about 20 pages to plug into it.

I’ve never found a program where “the binder” met my expectations. It always felt like an overpriced way to share the powerpoint slides. So you’ll very likely never see me doing any kind of binder.

Now I know from a sales perspective that when you put it in a binder, it’s easier for the customer to lose pieces, which prevents refunds. But if I’m truly focused on helping my clients succeed, why do I want them to lose anything? More importantly, if they want to return it, I want to make that as easy as pie – especially in light of the new FTC rulings. I ONLY want to work with people that WANT to work with me and WANT to get results.

If I Build It (And It Rocks) They WILL Come
Out of one side of their mouth, experts tell you that there are industry “standards” about drop off rates, subscriber open rates, and conversion rates. They tell us to expect that kind of stuff. Then out of the other side of their mouth they talk about attracting perfect clients, abundance and the fact that there is only cooperation, not competition.

So if I subscribe to the abundance, attraction notion, it stands to reason that I can have an amazing business filled with people that love my style, my approach, my outlook and my content. The only thing really standing in my way is what I call the “Emperor’s New Clothes Syndrome”. We keep spinning our wheels when we know something’s amiss, because we’re told that it worked for someone else, so it should work for us – instead of trusting our instincts and doing what we know resonates more perfectly in our own world.

I’ve learned that trusting my gut and expecting – nay demanding – more for myself and my clients makes me a hero to my ideal clients. It’s harder work, but it’s better rewarded. The half-ass approach of doing the minimum brings people to you that want more than the minimum for minimum prices.

One of my lists has about 1700 people on it. Each subscriber on that list is worth over $100 to me (and growing). I learned at Shine that’s an incredible value! And I cherish that, because it means that I’m doing all the right things to keep that list responsive and lucrative.

One of the concepts that Napoleon Hill talks about in Think and Grow Rich is doing more than you’re paid for. Going above and beyond is expected anymore. Shirking will just cause you to end up with the dregs.

And just like the Field of Dreams, all the players didn’t take the field in the beginning. But some of the players told other players, and eventually they DID show up.

Modeling Will Only Take You So Far – Then You’ve Got to Innovate
Learning from others is a great place to start when you’re stuck, or have no idea how to begin. But there comes a point in time when you must break out of the ruts the other wagons have laid down and forge a path of your own. Otherwise, you’re just a pale reflection of those that have gone before you.

I think of some of the greatest musicians of all time – they were all inspired by other great musicians. If all they ever did was model their heroes, everyone would be playing Purple Haze exactly the same way.

But when Hendrix played the National Anthem everyone stood up and took notice. Some people liked it, others were in shock, everyone said it was an innovative approach to an “old standard”.

So I’m taking time to learn outside my own field and tap into the expertise of others that have nothing to do with my business – some of them long since dead. Newton, Asimov, Picasso, daVinci all are great sources of inspiration to cross- pollinate your brain and get you thinking outside the incestuous relationships within your industry.

Women Overcome
When put to the test, women are amazingly resilient, enduring creatures that put up with a lot of stuff. We’re also deceptive, sneaky, tricky and cunning. We can use our powers for good or evil and when we choose good, the effect is exponential, trickling down through societies, permeating cultures, and changing the world.

Aside from the speakers, I met some incredibly remarkable women – some I was already following, and some new faces as well. Each of them has a wonderful gift to share and I’m confident they WILL share it because they are overcomers. Keri’s ability to connect quickly makes it clear she’s perfectly suited to social media coaching – despite what Anne might say. Jill’s gift for writing is clearly evident in her manner of speaking. Cutressa’s enthusiasm lights up her space and the lives of everyone around her – I think everyone knew Cutressa by the end of the event. MonSun, my Faerie Godmother, Sabine, and even Nicole (a client I met up with) all left a lasting imprint about who they are, what they want to accomplish in the world, and how they’re taking action on getting it done. And they will, because they overcome. Not to neglect the dozens of other women at this event that I met – each was remarkable. And I know each will overcome. It’s in their DNA, so to speak.

I Don’t Need Permission. I Need Connections.
Kind of self explanatory. I realized that I can be anyone I believe I am – without waiting for confirmation, validation or recognition from some external source, be it a person, mastermind group, coach or other entity living or dead.

There’s no “acting as if”. I already AM, therefore, it’s not acting.

I met a woman who dubbed herself My Faerie Godmother, and she told me things about me I’ve never shared publicly – and I couldn’t explain it away. She told me about my mom, my kid, my husband and all the things I’ve been trying to live up to – or live down. The buck stops here. Now.

I’m “smarter than the average bear” and don’t have to apologize for who I am. There are throngs of people that actually enjoy the part of me I’ve allowed to really shine through. That means regardless of my shape, size, texture or hair color (and yes it will stay blonde for many months to come), I’m me and that’s groovy. I don’t need your approval, program, group or seal of authenticity to be me.

What I do need is to continue to connect with people that expand my thinking like that. People that have viewpoints, clarity, confusion, directions, aspirations and energies that are different from my own. It’s part of what drives me and helps me thrive.

Good Things Come To He Who Waiteth If He Worketh Like Heck While He Waiteth
This was actually a little plaque that hung over my Grandma’s kitchen sink. There is a process to achieving success – an incubation period – and skipping steps only slows you down. Do things right the first time so you don’t have to go back and do them again, and quit trying to get ahead of yourself. Life’s not a race, it’s a cruise. The buffet’s pretty tasty and the view is spectacular fro all sides once you leave port.

So many of us are trying to hurry up and get rich/famous/successful, and we forget there’s a process to this stuff. Wolfgang Puck was quoted in INC magazine as saying that slow and steady growth is the best way to ensure longevity in the marketplace. He’s watched dozens of restaurants come and go that grew three times as fast as he has – and he’s the one still standing.

I’ve been reading a lot of stories about entrepreneurs from the turn of the last century – some you’ve never even heard of for that very reason. They wanted to grow too fast, and ruined themselves. On the other hand, the prudent, judicious and successful entrepreneurs that are still known to this day, took their time to carefully grow their businesses in ways that would be sustainable. Don’t trade a lot of money later for a little money right now.

I Like Being a Blonde
Several followers asked about the choice to go blonde, suggested I go back, and commiserated with me on the grey hair that lurks beneath the surface. The fact of the matter is I enjoy being blonde WAY more than I enjoyed having brown/grey hair, and it will likely stay that way for a long while. I can’t say blondes have more fun, but I can say that I’m easier to spot in the crowd, and it’s doing for me what I set out to do when I changed the color in the first place. Purple would probably have been just as effective, but I figured that was a little less professional.

I Like Rocking The Boat
Not to be cantankerous, but I like pointing out the stuff that doesn’t work. I’m not trying to be a Negative Nelly here – it’s not about being negative for negativity’s sake. I think there’s great value in sharing what works and what doesn’t so that people can improve themselves. Not everyone will agree, I’m sure, and that’s fine. They’re not part of my tribe. Usually when I point out a faux pas, I’m quick to offer a solution if I can find one. That’s how my brain is wired. Find a problem, find some solutions, fix it and move on. I’m not going to apologize for that anymore, I’m just going to rock it out!

So that’s the gist. There’s more, and I’ll be sharing stuff as I go along and wriggle out of the new cocoon, but you get the idea of where I’m headed here. Your comments, thoughts and witty remarks are welcome feedback!

I promised the good things that came out of Ali Brown’s SHINE event – and here they are (if you missed yesterday’s post, that’s where I put the yucky stuff).

For as much as I was disappointed about Ali’s content and delivery of the event, there were a TON of great things to take away from Shine. The first was the environment itself. Imagine a room of 450 entrepreneurs that are all on a journey of discovery and upleveling together. That’s what Napoleon Hill talked about when he was discussing Masterminds. And his group was a cross section unlike any other. CEO’s and start-ups, men, women, billionaires and people who spent their very last dollar to be at the event. Truly an amazing blend of people.

I pretty much had my values locked down before the event. So while I only took away a small a-ha from the values exercise, SO many people continued to talk about it well into Day three. I discovered that I value experiences, and that I need them – and that’s something I didn’t know about myself that will definitely change the way I approach business in 2010.

A ton of great new connections were forged. People that were silent followers were reaching out to say hi – and even thanks – to the ones they’ve been following. And those people were gracious, considerate, and even helpful at times. It was good to know that there were so many good folks at such a large event.

I left my laptop in the ballroom repeatedly and my bag was never touched. The integrity, compassion and genuine helpfulness of the attendees was tremendous. The bulk of the group were women, and all of them were genuinely appreciative of one another, willing to help each other, support each other, and cheer for each other. Often, when one person would voice a concern or an ah-ha, that person would be approached at a later time by a throng of attendees seeking to assist.

The speakers all shared some great sound bites. Julie Clark, an accidental millionaire, has worked hard to help children have better lives. She’s overcome a few obstacles to do it. That story was well recieved. Barbara Corcoran was an absolute RIOT, being completely honest, blunt, and entertaining at the same time. The lessons from her Mother were priceless.

But the star of the show was far and away Marlee Matlin. Honest, direct, and uber positive, she shared her triumphs so candidly, interacted with participants and even spoke a few words. She shared the realities of being a wife, mom and business owner – the joys and struggles. That was something we could all relate to. I felt she was the most “like us” of the bunch of speakers.

Anne McKevitt was very approachable throughout the event. Answering most questions, and creating quite a stir in the back of the room between breaks. I stood off to the side a few times listening to her share stories, offer advice, and try to be a genuine help to the women in the room. I look forward to getting her slides from the presentation.

Ali provided some good overview material. The only piece of “deep thinking” was on day three, with Dr. Jill’s TED video (above). That was a smart move on Ali’s part. Call in a female brain expert to explain the abilities of the left and right brain. I’ve seen this video numerous times, and it never fails to impress.

The hot seats were fun and entertaining. You could see the wheels turning for these entrepreneurs – and they also made a ton of new connections after sitting in the “Ali Halo” for a few minutes. There was lotsof learning going on in the room.

I met a faerie godmother. For as open a person as I am, she was able to connect the dots on some issues I’ve NEVER publicly shared before. It was an eye opening experience for me. It answered so many questions, and raised a few more I’ll be exploring in 2010.

My swipe file is FILLED with ideas from Ali’s event. I learned a TON about how to effectively run a live event (and what not to do). I took more notes on that than anything else. Ali puts on quite a show, and anyone paying attention could see how much behind the scenes work was going on right in front of our eyes.

I also learned a TON about upselling a big ticket coaching product. Ali had dozens and dozens of women making a beeline to the front of the stage as the scantily clad Vegas showgirls brought the MPC applications to the front of the room. Ali used her clients as examples for each of the business blueprint “models” she offered, allowing her the opportunity to not only showcase her handiwork, but to get live testimonials from her clients.

The bulk of day two served to set up the pitch for her program at the end of the evening. Presenting James Roche to deliver content focused on helping people see the logical steps in building a business set him up as a content expert. Then drawing the connection that he’ll also be teaching not one but two tracks for this year’s MPC program got the crowd even more excited.

Ali sealed the deal for many with her promised live event mid 2010 all about setting up and running a multi-tier coaching/mastermind program, and free VIP access tonext year’s Shine event for those that opted to join at either the platinum or diamond level.

This was a HUGE opportunity to observe the upsell, as well as clever ways to pre-fill the seats for a live event.

We were also able to see and connect with people that were getting results. In a year of depessing economic news, it was good to hear that some people (myself included) were having their best year EVER in business. Many of them were doing something new, out of the box, or testing an entirely different market, but they were doing SOMETHING – and it was working. It wasn’t one particular market that was seeing success, these industries were as varied as the women that worked them.

Michele DeKinder-Smith’s JaneOutOfTheBox.com direct mail campaign was genius! Complete with what NOT to do, it was so cool to see what happened, what worked and what didn’t in a way that we could translate into our own business. That was AWESOME!

You get what you take out of an event like this. I came not expecting much in terms of content (Ali was still creating content only a couple of weeks before the event, according to social media posts). My focus was on learning from others in the room, seeing what new “tricks” Ali had up her sleeve, and hearing from the celeb speakers.

The event totally matched my expectations, although I was hoping for more. When things become predictable for me, that’s a sign that it’s time to uplevel my thinking and connect with more ambitious folks. That was a huge take-away for me.

Whenever major upleveling happens in my life, it’s usually coupled with a major weather disturbance (weird, I know). So after Sunday’s earthquake AND the tropical storm we flew through on my way home, I knew I made a good decision to attend Shine – even if the content wasn’t all that was promised.

So for as much belly aching as I did yesterday, you can see there was still a ton of awesome goings on in Vegas. Plus, I made a few new friends, and even spied a celebrity or two in the lobby of my hotel after the event. And yes, staying a couple of extra days definitely gave me time to get some clarity on my 2010 directions as well. New ideas, new biz ventures, and some great new connections means that 2010 will likely be my best year yet.

Bring. It. On.

This wrap up has many facets. As such, I wanted to make separate posts for each of them. A lot of good came from this event. A LOT. And I will give ample room on this blog for that. But I’m a “bad news first” kind of girl, so here’s where it gets a little – as my friend @ElizabethPW would say – snarky.

So I didn’t plan on going to the Ali event for content. In fact, after hearing Ali herself profess to watering down her content at previous event, I really wasn’t expecting much. I looked at this as an investment in meeting new people, forging some great new business conacts, firming up some online friendships in real life, and possibly getting some content along the way.

In fact, the content was frosting. I was hoping for some face time with the speakers, but it was made clear early on that we probably wouldn’t get that. So I expected a big pitch for her Platinum/Diamond program along with a sprinkling of ideas from Think and Grow Rich and some business math – since she told us to bring our calculator.

I pretty much got what I expected, which is all at once disappointing and promising at the same time. Day one was by far the most content packed day of the event – but mostly it was the inner game of business. As I had recently come from a mastermind goup meeting of my own, I had already done the values activity, and made light work of that task. For the investment, Day one was really where the hard work of the event happened.

A lot of people took a ton out of the values exercise. People talked about it all of the three days we were in session – and it was a great way to start the event. In fact, if it weren’t for one glaring issue on day one, I would have said it was the best day of the entire event.

And no, I’m not talking about the fire alarm. That was incredibly hysterical.

The problem I had was that after the values exercise, Ali openly revealed that “truth” was one of her top 5 values. I’m all for truth, and I think it’s great. I also know that we all lie, so there’s a very fine line you have to walk as a public persona that values truth so highly.

So imagine my shock and awe when both of Ali’s speakers for day one openly admitted to lying in order to achieve success. Julie Clark, founder of Baby Einstein lied to a buyer, telling her that the previous buyer “loved her video and was planning to put it on the shelves in the stores”, when in fact, she hadn’t even heard back form the buyer in the first place. Anne McKevitt lied about her age after running away from home to score a job with celeb hair stylist John Frieda.

Some people I talked to said “Hey, you do whatever it takes.” or “Act as if, right?” Everyone has their own ethics barometer, and I’m not here to debate that. What bothered me was that Ali said she valued truth, and then put two very successful women on her stage that openly admitted to lying.

That REALLY bugged me. She didn’t call them out on it or anything. If truth is such a highly valued commodity in Ali’s world, why was it so lacking in two of her featured speakers? The message I walked away with is “the truth is okay, but you have to lie if you want to be successful.” I tweeted about it several times because it really got to me.

These women were incredibly inspiring – from an “overcome any obstacle” standpoint. I’ll talk more about that on my next post.

Then there was a short message from one of the three event sponsors. And by short I mean incredibly long and unintelligible to an audience that doesn’t do much in the way of day trading. And why did only one sponsor get to speak from the stage? Did the other two not pay enough? That seemed goofy to me. I know that they sponsored the VIP party, but MichelePW sponsored the sponsored the elegant morning breakfast on all three days, which was far more valuable to the entire group. She could have given a USEFUL presentation that would have captured the hearts of all in the room. She’s a COPYWRITER after all!

The last bummer of the day was Anne’s lambasting of branding. She began with a graphic depicting the top of a soda bottle, a coffee cup, a tennis shoe, and a hamburger – all unidentified. She then asked us to write down the first brand that came to mind.

Her point was to convey the power of branding. But her point got lost in translation as she proceeded to tear apart nearly every woman in the room by telling us we’re wasting time on social media, that we shouldn’t put our twitter id or picture on our biz cards, and that glossy stock screams cheesy “realtor” or something to that effect.

She further went on to say that we needed a business name that tells people exactly what we’re about, and that if our tagline could do it, then we were “okay”, but that we really needed a name that was clear to identify.

Ironically, the four brand names that were most popular in the above mentioned quiz? Coke, Starbucks, Nike, McDonald’s – NONE of which tell you a damn thing about their product.

Anne tried to construct a corporate advertising brand on a personal/personality-based branding frame. In several of the inpromptu moments when Anne was “cornered” between sessions, she was found analysing and collecting business cards, telling people what was “wrong” with them. At least three times I heard her tell people that if they couldn’t afford to spend the few hundred/couple thousand dollars to have a quality business card designed and printed, that they shouldn’t be in business.

Them’s hard words to swallow in a room of people where many spent their last penny (and then some) just to get to the event, let alone order business cards.

And yes, my card totally violated the Anne McKevitt rules of engagement. It was a temp I made on glossy stock just for the event with my pic, twitter id and a blurb on the back that said we met at Shine.

They’re collectors items now. hee hee.

But as an Idea Coach, I had three people approach me to help them come up with a new name for their business based on Anne’s suggestions – and they were able to find me again in that sea of people because my picture was on my card! How sad is that?

Day two began by trying to play catchup on content that we couldn’t finish thanks to the fire alarm. Unfortunately, what I was HOPING would be implementation and strategy to help us make use of the business models she provided, ended up being overview. I can already read the diagrams, thanks. Overview wasn’t particularly value added to me.

Ali was clever in that she was able to sprinkle in more testimonials about how her current clients were successful with the business models – and nearly all of them ended with some kind of “you’re the best!” testimonial for Ali’s MPC program.

Knowing Ali’s live event format, I expected testimonials, but I expected them to come during the panel in the evening (and I wasn’t disappointed). I also expected them to be subtantive – especially in light of the new FTC rules taking effect Dec 1 (A question Ali wouldn’t field during her Q&A session). I even expected a session with James Roche to set the positive frame of his role in the MPC program, and his session on the entrepreneur’s path wasn’t too bad.

Barbara Corcoran was a pip – and I enjoyed her stories immensely. I didn’t enjoy the recurring theme of having to BS her way to billions, which again seemed to be the antithesis of what Ali said she held as a core value (truth).

The highlight of Day two was Adam Haroun’s makeover during the late night hot seats. He was able to immediately see the value of his offerings, and make some powerful connections to grow his business – something I think we were all hoping would happen for us on day two.

Day three was incredibly rushed. In fact, the peer-to-peer reviews were what I was waiting for all weekend – and they never materialized. Ali didn’t even have time to complete a portion of the event and promised to continue it on a teleclass at a later date. I’m wondering how the return policy will be affected by this turn of events.

The business plan was an interesting cross between vision board and action plan, but seemed to lack substance. There were a lot of A-ha’s being shared, and Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor’s TED video about the left and right hemispheres of the brain drew quite a response. Highlight number one of Day three.

When it came down to “studying” Napoleon Hill’s book, Think and Grow Rich, I chuckled at Ali’s gaffe, when she said she wished there were “Cliff Notes” for the book. Apparently she didn’t know it was taken from a much larger work of Hill’s -so in essence it WAS the Cliff Notes. Hee hee. Ultimately, though, Ali let the audience lead this session with their own a-ha’s, and shared relatively little insight of her own.

And no, we didn’t need a calculator. Ever.

We did need a few tissues either from laughing too hard or crying a bit at the AMAZING Marlee Matlin. I was disheartened to hear that of all our successful speakers, it was the most honest, hard working, no b.s’ing of the bunch that didn’t have a multi-million dollar company under her belt.

But perhaps, that’s because her definition of success is a more holistic one.
Marlee was definitely Highlight number ONE of the entire event.

And yes, we did contact Ali’s team about the content that wasn’t delivered. They indicated they’re “checking into” it to see what Ali plans to do.

I can’t help but wonder as a handful of folks are actually speaking out about the daashed expectations and disappointments at Shine, how many other people are watching the empress and not telling her she’s unclothed?

So there’s the ugly, the bad, and some of the good.
More good to follow. Promise.